Nurse Your Way Back to Jesus

Remember to protect your peace. We can only control ourselves and how we react to others. If our reaction is to finally stand up for ourselves to someone who repeatedly does not respect us, it can often get flipped around as if we are the disrespectful one. Don’t let them fool you. Don’t let them gaslight you into believing that you are the problem. Pray for peace, for an answer to whatever the issue may be and God will guide you through it. Matching energies and standing up for ourselves can sometimes mean we may give a bit of an attitude, but the key is to set these boundaries in a firm, matter of fact, respectful way, while still being more humble and kind than that person is to us. Be the bigger person in the end. Ange, resentment and holding grudges will only continue to hurt OUR peace. 🫶🏻Follow me @christenbryce_rn on IG and ❤️ this blog post 🫶🏻Comment YES if this has happened to you - share below or feel free to email me your stories to chat about it mail@thecrisisnurse.com ...

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve dated someone while they were at their worst, dealing with their own baggage, anxiety, heavily partying, not ready for a “forever” relationship, or the timing simply was way off (but everything else made sense)… I’d definitely have a lot more money and way less disappointment. All throughout my adult life I’ve dated someone or have been “just friends” with or “just a hook up” to someone, but in some way managed to help them through something they needed to work on or heal from. Basically prepping, priming, or rendering them if you will; but not so they are more successful or suitable for me , (no, no - why would that make sense?). Rather, I was getting them ready to be their best, improved self for someone else forever. And what’s even better (said of course with sarcasm), is that in every case of a serious long term relationship, it was literally the next girl that they dated who they ended up marrying. Four serious boyfriends, and it happened ...

 Have you been talked into going on a date or a dating app?  I have and it definitely sent me down a dark road so to speak.  I already had enough “issues” on my own but then going on actual dates just seemed like way too much pressure for something serious that I was not ready for, nor did I want.  Take more time for yourself with nothing and nobody to distract you or blur your vision so to speak. You need to heal and respect yourself and be there for your children and their emotions before bringing someone new into your lives.   If it’s the “right” person, they’ll wait until you’re ready, be supportive and understanding- not give you a guilt trip or tell you how you should feel as so many mansplained to me.   Keep your head up and trust your gut. Dating Comment ME if you are not interested in dating at this point either.

Sometimes as adults we get so wrapped up in our own issues, whether it’s during a divorce or not.  Kids notice  everything. They see our emotions, feel our moods, hear our fights and negative comments.  We can’t leave them behind or ignore their requests.  Acting out can be a direct result of what they see, feel, hear, and experience.  Their brains are still developing. They may not know how to put in words what they are thinking. They are confused.  I recall the insane tantrums my toddler had while we were divorcing. Sure, some of it had to do with “normal toddler stuff,” but looking back I know that it was also her way of being pissed off.  Because she couldn’t understand why she wasn’t seeing mommy AND daddy every day. We need to be mindful of every little remark, sarcastic comment, and eye roll we make in their presence, because as we've heard for so many years...kids are sponges. But it is very true, and in this society it is more imperative than...

From a parent’s perspective there is nothing worse than people trying to take your kids away from you.  Or hurting them emotionally in the process (except for physically hurting them and them actually dying). Nobody understands what it’s like to be threatened to lose your own children or to just know that at any point an ex or the court could hold enough power over you to threaten that.   Thank God I did not have that happen in my divorce , but the fear and anxiety of knowing that it was a very real possibility is a feeling that cannot even be described.  Just not seeing your own child whenever you want every day was/is awful - especially when your kids are little and cannot speak up. I know people who have not seen their kids for months and at this point it’s like we completely normalize it in society. It’s absolutely not okay.   The court system needs to be severely changed and held accountable for making people fight way harder and get way more nasty tha...

  I have a perspective that some people might be shocked to see - because we don’t often admit weakness or struggles and we told to “stay strong”, “it’ll get better”, “be positive” (I even say it sometimes).  Especially as Catholics (Christians) life really IS just like a rollercoaster. 🎢  You go up reeeeaally slowly and only stay up there for a split second then you fall back down so fast your stomach does flips.  That’s been me for my entire adulthood so I guess I’m just kind of used to it.  Every time something good happens I know tragedy or heartache is coming soon ten fold.  That’s why I’ve become a realist.  Not a pessimist, not an optimist.  I trust God that He has a plan for me, YES - but God never promised sunshine and rainbows 🌈 until after the darkness, sufferings, storms, and floods.  Being realistic means not getting your hopes up for something you have no control over, but still keeping your faith that God has a lesson or reas...

Some posts will be like a chapter in a book, and others will be one paragraph or a few sentences. Today I just have a few thoughts that I felt needed to be shared that I often ponder, and I think it is important enough to share them with you: God has a reason for everything. Every experience, every person in your life, good or bad, sad or happy.   Take your own struggles and use what you have learned to be there for someone else.  That is the purpose, YOUR purpose.  From helping someone change a flat tire to helping them through a divorce. What have you been through and how is God intending to use that experience to help someone else? What is He calling you to do? Something to ponder and pray about today... God Bless! Christen