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The One With No Kid Left Behind

Sometimes as adults we get so wrapped up in our own issues, whether it’s during a divorce or not.  Kids notice  everything. They see our emotions, feel our moods, hear our fights and negative comments. 


We can’t leave them behind or ignore their requests.  Acting out can be a direct result of what they see, feel, hear, and experience.  Their brains are still developing. They may not know how to put in words what they are thinking. They are confused. 


I recall the insane tantrums my toddler had while we were divorcing. Sure, some of it had to do with “normal toddler stuff,” but looking back I know that it was also her way of being pissed off.  Because she couldn’t understand why she wasn’t seeing mommy AND daddy every day.


We need to be mindful of every little remark, sarcastic comment, and eye roll we make in their presence, because as we've heard for so many years...kids are sponges.


But it is very true, and in this society it is more imperative than ever before that we make time to get down to their level, look them in the eyes, be present, hug them, and tell them we love them. You never know how much time you have with another human, and saying "I love you" a million times may still not feel like enough.


These little humans trust us to be there safe space. Are we being that for them?



God Bess,

Christen  

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