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The One With My Mission (Well, One of Them)

From a parent’s perspective there is nothing worse than people trying to take your kids away from you.  Or hurting them emotionally in the process (except for physically hurting them and them actually dying).

Nobody understands what it’s like to be threatened to lose your own children or to just know that at any point an ex or the court could hold enough power over you to threaten that.  


Thank God I did not have that happen in my divorce , but the fear and anxiety of knowing that it was a very real possibility is a feeling that cannot even be described.  Just not seeing your own child whenever you want every day was/is awful - especially when your kids are little and cannot speak up.


I know people who have not seen their kids for months and at this point it’s like we completely normalize it in society. It’s absolutely not okay.  


The court system needs to be severely changed and held accountable for making people fight way harder and get way more nasty than they possibly ever would.  Half the time the court system is who makes the parents fight because of the gaslighting and lies and the way the lawyers tell them to play hardball.  Not necessarily the parents themselves.


Parents feel VERY alone during the actual process and we need to have more support and solutions.  Especially when we are also holding the guilt of our faith - knowing it is a sin. 


Divorcing parents need more guidance and help than just paying lawyers thousands of dollars - most of whom don’t actually give a shit in the end.  Sorry but they don’t. It’s clockwork to them. Just another custody battle is how they see it. Just another case.  And they make a pretty penny off of YOUR misery and the misery of your children.  And I’m just going to say this bluntly - if you’re a lawyer who hasn’t yourself been through a divorce with your own children, you have NO IDEA what you are doing to families. 


Are there lawyers in it for the right reasons?  Of course! But why do we call “good” lawyers “sharks”?  (Not to mention there are certain judges who many people have come together to discuss regarding their outright EVIL treatment of one parent or the other locally).


In my opinion, we should start fighting back against this disgusting broken system that WANTS broken families by giving divorcing people REAL HELP before it gets too bad.


If I can even help ONE MORE person get through the worst of the worst to see their own kids more, I will feel that it was my purpose for being in their life.


That is my mission. And I’m sticking to it 🙏🏻 

My girls are my WHY.


***Please share this or other blog posts that resonate with you or could help someone you know. Someone needs to know they are not alone in their feelings and frustrations (and possibly at risk of losing their kids) with this at this VERY MOMENT***


God Bless,
Christen

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